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December 06, 2004
Another Seraphic Friend
Sara has been writing to me almost from the beginning of this website back in May. She too lost a child after a long illness and her incredibly powerful and articulate e-mails continue to strike a powerful chord. Those of us who have lost children live in a separate universe from the rest of mankind. Sara's observations on death and mourning and grief are so familiar that it's almost as if her words and mine are interchangable.
Sara was a practising lawyer in Jerusalem, but when her daughter, Timmi, became ill Sara quickly reevaluated her life and decided that it was "about rich people's money" and this was not what she wanted to do. Now Sara mediates and raises funds for Israeli non-profit organizations.
Here's a sample of Sara's powerful words: She's writing about a group session for grieving parents:
My new support group is mixed, for men and women together (also religious and secular). It meets once a week under the guidance of a very experienced psychologist, who gave a good impression at the first meeting. Because the group has only just started, so it’s early to say how it will be. I heard a lot of very sad stories, of course, and felt very empathetic, but only the future will tell if any bonds or relationships will come of it. One thing that it did do for me so far is that as I began to introduce myself, I found myself unable to choke out the words “I’m the mother of seven children.” I turned red in the face and began crying, and cried on and off for some time after that. I didn’t expect this – I’ve told people my story so many times by now, and have gotten used to saying that I have seven children, one of whom died – but the tears were very welcome, as (as I’ve said before) I’m not able to cry enough.
Sara's blog, Five Years Later, is beautifully written, from-the-gut, and I recommend it to all my readers.
Karen and I feel tremendous strength and warmth from Sara, each and every e-mail that we receive is treated as the precious communication it is.
Posted by Robert J. Avrech at December 6, 2004 10:45 AM
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