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January 26, 2007
Jane: On Men Who Can't Commit
You may like him well enough to marry, but not well enough to wait.
-- Jane Austen, Letter to her Niece Fanny
Posted by Robert J. Avrech at January 26, 2007 11:13 AM
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On a regular basis, books hit the shelf telling women how to catch men and manage relationships. It's so much simpler to read Jane Austen, both in her books and her correspondence. Everything you need to know about civilized relationships is there. In other words, that's a lovely quotation.
Posted by: Bookworm at January 28, 2007 07:02 PM
Bookwork:
Great obseravation. The sad fact is, however, that Jane Austen ended up unmarried. Evidence points to her having loved a young man, but the romance, for a variety of reasons, did not work out. Nevertheless, you are quite right, her novels and letters are a legacy on how to think about and conduct civilized relationships.
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at January 28, 2007 08:51 PM
My on the way out boyfriend has never proposed to any girlfriends all his life - 58,that should tell me that I shouldn't start a relationship with him. After 2 and half years, we are just basically mismatched in principle: he wants a great relationship without legal/paper commitment, I won't stand for men who wants everything but not being responsible, neither would I stand for a second-best position in a relationship. A woman takes a second-best position only devalues herself in many ways. If he can't you what you deserve, go live a happy life without him, he is not worthy of you, believe me.
Posted by: lilygreen at July 6, 2008 09:57 PM
My on the way out boyfriend has never proposed to any girlfriends all his life - 58,that should tell me that I shouldn't start a relationship with him. After 2 and half years, we are just basically mismatched in principle: he wants a great relationship without legal/paper commitment, I won't stand for men who wants everything but not being responsible, neither would I stand for a second-best position in a relationship. A woman takes a second-best position only devalues herself in many ways. If he can't you what you deserve, go live a happy life without him, he is not worthy of you, believe me.
Posted by: lilygreen at July 6, 2008 09:58 PM
Lilygreen:
Thanks so much for the painfully articulate confession/comment. We wish you only joy and happiness.
Posted by: Robert J. Avrech at July 6, 2008 11:58 PM